GUARDIAN | Life and style
In my 20s ‘treat ’em mean, keep ’em keen’ felt like power. In my 50s I see that dating strategy for what it is: fear
在我二十岁时，“对他们狠一点，才能让他们更想你”感觉像是一种力量；在我五十岁时，我看到了这种约会策略的真相：恐惧
‘I am retiring that dating strategy. I am done auditioning for the role of Cool Girl … I’m replacing her with a woman who texts back. Who says what she means. Who admits she wants to be held.’
2026-03-13 853词 中等
But I am 51 now. Looking back on that first year of dating after divorce at 50 – the apps, the profiles, the quiet violence of being matched and discarded by an algorithm – I realise something uncomfortable: I wasn’t training them. I was hiding.
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