This makes her sound a bit of a princess, but she was anything but; that’s where the second part of her advice comes in. She grew up one of six children in a family with very little money, and took on caring responsibilities when she was very young; it was not a place, or a time, of treats. Feeling she was allowed to have nice things and go to lovely places was not a birthright, but she cultivated the confidence to pursue and enjoy them. Having grown up without much ease or beauty, seeking those things out and asserting her right to them was quietly defiant.