A lot of people have some version of the experience you’re describing, I think. Something about them seems to invite quick closeness, and they wind up with relationships or expectations they didn’t quite mean to create. A radio producer friend of mine, professionally trained to conjure intimate conversations, sort of forgot how not to do that in everyday interactions, and found people opened up and bonded to them quite quickly – maybe quicker than either of them would want. And then comes the turn: the moment the other person wants more than you meant to give, the moment it feels like being consumed, and now everybody feels bad. They feel rejected by the flip-flop. You feel bad for causing pain, and spooked by the eerie mirror-world of versions of you. The whole thing’s unpleasant and confusing and everybody’s left wondering who’s at fault.