I spent the 90s riding a motorbike and dressing like a tomboy, but I reverted back to femininity when I opted to get married. My husband relocated us to the US in 2007, but when the marriage fell apart I felt an irresistible pull back towards the masculinity I’d given up. And since nobody played with gender quite like David Bowie, I decided to spend a free afternoon on a summer trip back to the UK at the V&A, in the hope that maybe he could help me figure it out.