“The answer would be, ‘Well, they have to be this tall, make this much money,’” she remembers. It’s one thing to look for someone tall and successful; it’s another to say you’ll only go out with someone who’s between 6 foot 1 and 6 foot 3 or has $10 million to $20 million in cash. “I wish we could math and game our way into being in love with someone, but that’s not necessarily how love goes,” she says.