I’ve been thinking about this because lately, I keep hearing about the differences between lovers. You’ve probably heard of age-gap relationships. But what about the “job importance gap,” the “woke gap,” the “growth gap,” the “AI gap”? The “being able to breathe through your nose properly gap”? (That one hits for me.) Within a period of four months last year, the culture magazine Dazed published articles on “swag gaps,” “intelligence gaps,” and “party gaps.” You can pop “gap” on the end of just about any attribute—and when you get in the habit, analyzing your own relationship dynamics in these terms becomes easy. Come to think of it, I’ve experienced anxiety gaps (I was the more nervous one), cooking gaps (call me chef; I don’t order in every meal), and sleep gaps (I need my eight hours).